The more you complicate your life the more complicated your life becomes.
For a long, long time, I was the Queen of Complication. And it practically suffocated me.
5 ways in which I complicated my own life and how I uncomplicated it:
1. Clutter. Yup. From knick knacks to gobs of “important papers” I thought I needed to keep. Including somewhere between 600-1,000 books that needed important shelf space and quite frankly, became a huge weight every time I moved.
2. Taking on other people’s problems. For some reason I thought I had to either fix them, solve them, or hang on to them as if they were my own.
3. Financially stretching myself too thin. I once had $28,000 in credit card debt, a car payment, and a mortgage. Dreadful place to be.
4. Over committing myself. ‘nuf said.
5. Pursuing and chasing after what other people said I *should* be doing.
These were the 5 biggest ways I complicated my life. I was drowning in busy-ness and debt. I felt like a hamster in the proverbial wheel….going nowhere fast.
So, how did I uncomplicate my life?
1. I threw out or donated the clutter. And I make it a point to declutter at least every 6 weeks. Yup. Just purged a stack of those *important* papers, threw out old and broken Christmas ornaments and lights. And let me tell you how much I love my Kindle. (I still have about 50 resource books that have *keeper* status)
2. I learned how to differentiate between my problems and your problems and I don’t take on your problems anymore. Mine are enough.
3. It took a few years but I paid off *all* my credit card debt and paid off 2 car loans early. 5 months ago, my husband and I sold our home and *right sized.* We paid cash for our new home and no longer have a mortgage or any debt. Whew. Such a fantastically freeing feeling.
4. I learned a very important word…NO. And I know how and when to use it.
5. I stopped chasing after the nonsense. And there’s a lot of it floating around out there. I’ve created the life I want. Not the life the world keeps trying to shove down my throat.
I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to live a complicated life. The choice is yours. But if you’re anything like me, you’ll have to reach that boiling point when you’ve declared…ENOUGH.
I jumped off the crazy train. You can, too.