It’s Okay To Say “No”

Saying No

Hang on. One more thing.

I want to tell you about saying, “No.”

and being completely uncomfortable
worried sick
sick to your stomach

that you’ll be seen as
the bad daughter
the ugly sister
the bitchy wife
the “once upon a time” friend

and your insides feel like goo
sloshing around
and you seriously doubt your skin
will hold your innards in

and you think for a moment
about saying, “yes,” and that makes you

tremble and shake

as bile rises from the pit of your stomach to the top of your throat

and you know
you know
you know
you must say, “no”

and so you do
face to face
because over the phone is so uncool

and you tell your father or brother or partner or bestie

you tell him, “no”

and nothing you imagined happening

All that worry
and pacing
and hand wringing
was all for nothing

and you go on

eating dinner

and talking about how cold it is this winter and your plans to be someplace warmer soon.


My poem “Saying No” poured out of me from a writing prompt in Laurie Wagner’s Wild Writing. Check out her program. I highly recommend it!


Wine After Yoga was a huge success! As so many of you said, “it was the perfect afternoon!”

Huge thanks to Cask and Vine for taking such good care of our group!

Stay tuned for the next Wine After Yoga event!

Author: Peggy Nolan

Writer. Quote Junkie. Photographer. Yogini. Black Belt.

15 thoughts on “It’s Okay To Say “No””

  1. Beautiful poem Peggy.
    Drives the message across so well.
    Saying No is self care too.
    When we do, we realise all we were scared of is inexistent.
    Thank you for sharing and congratulations for a successful event.
    Cheers to many more

  2. I love this poem Peggy and how it highlights how the body gives us messages of our need to set boundaries if we will only listen. I was right there with you and so appreciate your descriptions! Thank you!

  3. What a beautiful way to capture an essential self-care practice. Your poem was a perfect way to describe how it feels when you first start practicing saying “no.” It gets easier with practice and a deep knowing that you are worth it! xo

  4. I love the flow and descriptive voice within your poem. Ah, yes…. Self-care. It is a beautiful (and not always easy) thing.

    Congrats on the successful event!

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