How Small Changes Make Big Differences

Until one is committed there’s hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative, and creation, there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans:

The moment one definitely commits oneself then Providence moves, too.

All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events come from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no one could have dreamt would come his or her way.

I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s concepts:

Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, Begin It. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.”

—W.H. Murray

Once I gave over to truly committing myself to my choices, to my decisions, to my countless ideas, Providence has never failed me.

Boldness truly, deeply, really has genius, power, and magic in it. Especially when you surrender your attachment to the outcome.

Yoga is my daily practice of non-attachment. It helps me partner with my ego rather than succumb to the drama of doubt and fear which my ego is an expert at creating. My ego wants to protect me from shame and failure.

My ego wants to stop me from doing anything it perceives as dangerous so if it catches me hesitating, you can bet I’m sitting my ass back on the couch and doing nothing. Nada. Ego breathes a sigh of relief and goes back to sleep.

My soul and deepest desires want me to be full in, committed to my acts of initiative and creation. So it’s critical that I act or speak up before I hesitate. And the way I trick myself into bold, creative action is to tell myself “it’s an experiment.”

Ever since I started experimenting with this concept, magic started. Every time I commit myself to a course of action or an idea, amazing things happen.

Mel Robbins talks about this concept in this must watch interview on The 5 Second Rule. And no, it’s not about eating food that’s dropped to the floor.

Seriously, I had no idea that scientific research has actually been done on when one takes action before hesitation sets in. Like Mel, I thought this was my little secret. What I didn’t know was the science behind shaking up my own habit loops.

Obviously Mr. Murray knew all about this, too. Otherwise, he never would have attempted to summit Mt. Everest.

We don’t have to attempt massive undertakings like climbing Mt. Everest. Sometimes our most massive shifts happen when we tackle the mundane and the ordinary. For Mel Robbins, it started with not hitting the snooze button.

Four years ago I made a shift that made a huge difference: I started waking up an hour earlier every morning. I went from lying to myself that I’d go to the gym after work or that I’d write a novel after work or that I would <insert some lofty aspiration> to actually getting shit done BEFORE I went to work.

  • I co-authored 5 Amazon Best selling books.
  • I self-published an Amazon best selling book of poetry.
  • I practiced yoga every damn day. (Still do)
  • My morning time has become my starting trigger to ground and center myself, before the demands of the day come rushing in.

The first two weeks sucked. Transitioning from night owl to a morning lark made me sleep deprived. Not only was I changing how I did my mornings but I was also changing my night time behavior. A few days of sleep deprivation were worth it.

4 years later, my morning routine continues to evolve. I’ve recently added teaching two yoga classes a week. Bright and early, before I go to work.

I use my morning time to create art or work on a crochet project.

I guard this time like a mama bear guards her cubs.

And I’m about to experiment with way bigger things than getting up an hour or two earlier. Now that waking up when others are hitting the snooze button is a routine loop, it’s time for me to shake up my small experiments. My brain sees these experiments as safe.

Keep an eye out for something bigger here. And hold me to it.

Meanwhile, what small changes have you made that have made a big difference in your life?

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How Are You Making You A Consistent Priority?

Consistency is a challenge to every yoga practice. Sticking with your practice when you’d rather stay up late, sleep in, or simply skip it just because takes effort and commitment.

It takes Effort to resist the temptation to binge watch one more episode of Stranger Things. Effort to resist hitting the snooze button for the 10th time.

And it takes commitment to you. That’s one of the hardest commitments to make because there’s this weird notion out there that taking care of you is selfish. Let me be clear. Taking care of you needs to be one of your highest priorities. It’s as necessary as oxygen. A nervous, anxious, stressed out you doesn’t do you or anyone you love any good.

This week I’m traveling and I know how much easier it is to not practice. I chose to take 15 minutes and practice asana and ground myself with a simple effective vinyasa flow. I took care of me first. The rest of the day is easy.

How are you making you a consistent priority?

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8 Tips for a Fabulous Life

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Change is HARD. Change takes TIME. Change requires CONSISTENT EFFORT. Just ask the butterfly.

We all mean well when we say we’re going to do it, when we say we’re going to change the behaviors that no longer serve us. Where nearly most of us fall down is in the discipline, the focus, and the stick-to-it-ness to see our changes take root and bear fruit. I believe most of us really, truly want to live a fabulous life.

Consistent Effort and Practice = Your Fabulous Life

I don’t recommend tackling every single change all at once. You’ll end up overwhelmed and most likely will throw in the towel before you even start. Pick one change to focus on. Practice it until it becomes your new habit. Practice it until you no longer feel uncomfortable or guilty. No doubt when you start, you will feel uncomfortable. You may make others uncomfortable. That’s OK. Change is like that. It’s about moving out of your comfort zone so you can create the life you want.

8 Tips for a Fabulous Life

#1 Say no when you mean no

#2 Say yes when you mean yes

So what’s going on with 1 and 2? I’m glad you asked. Most people run into problems when they say “yes” when they really mean “no.” Every single time I used to do that, I’d seethe underneath my skin. Yes, there are times when you really do have to take out the trash, that’s not what I’m talking about. This is about doing something for someone else that they perceive as important and urgent and you neglect what’s important and urgent for you. Make sense?

#3 Let others do for themselves that which they can do for themselves

#4 Give up care taking – it doesn’t work

When we do for others that which they can do for themselves, we send a silent but crippling message “I don’t believe you are capable of doing that by yourself or for yourself.”

#5 Perfectionism is the greatest con on earth – you are already perfect in every way

#6 What you allow will continue until you decide it’s not worth allowing

#7 Speak up for yourself because no one else will

#8 Make yourself a priority – others will follow your lead

YOU matter. Make yourself count and be heard!


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